What I’ve been noticing lately is a shift in what I feel and think about consuming sweet things (and other “yummy” things) and maybe about rules and rigidity in general. The word restriction has been popping up for me. Re STRICT ion, and also the association between eating disorders and “rules” about food.
We want to avoid being overly strict or rigid in our lives. So it’s good to be on the lookout for arbitrary restrictions that we place on ourselves, and then get curious about them. I mean, yeah, if I had concerns (evidence) that I might be growing a tumor, I would maybe want to cut out sugar for a while. I might want to go on a sugar fast or something. But the sugars actually do have a place on the pyramid. The refined ones are up there on the very top, but fresh fruits and root vegetables are a source of important nutrients – at least for me….today. Grains seem to be less important, but not something I need to cut out completely. Highly processed foods are at the little bitty point up there on the top of the triangle, where the space they take up is very, very small in comparison to the balance of what I eat.
I know, there are so many rules out there about food and what is actually good for us, but what’s important is for us to take personal responsibility and adopt some kind of structure to help us respond to our unique and changing nutritional needs. Guidelines help us navigate our lives and make choices from the myriad options we face every day. But just make sure you don’t let your guidelines become too strict or rigid.
One of the guidelines I’ve been using lately (and not strictly) is based on the pH of the body. Some foods, when we consume them, make our bodies more acidic, others more alkaline. Remembering that if I eat four times as many alkaline foods as acidic foods – an excess of acidic foods creates acidity in the body which supports the proliferation of parasites and yeast which I understand to be precursors of many chronic illnesses – my body will function better. If I fill my diet with mostly acidic foods, my body is going to get out of balance. So while I don’t need to be constantly measuring or restricting myself, I can keep that idea in the back of my mind, and if I notice that my health is slipping, or my energy levels aren’t what I’d like them to be, or I’m feeling that something is off, I can make some adjustments in the types of foods I’m eating.
The other thing I’ve noticed is that starting a couple weeks ago I was having really strong cravings for something. It wasn’t sugar, though I did veer toward fried things. But when I sat with it, and asked my body what it really wanted, it seemed more like it was asking for more high quality proteins. Also entering my awareness from various articles and conversations I was having was the idea that I was needing to increase my consumption of high quality proteins and fats. So that is the direction I moved in.
In this phase of temporarily self-imposed monkhood, I realized I had begun to associate high-quality proteins and fats with unwanted expense. So I picked up a small container of cheap, highly processed peanut butter, and quickly concluded that this wasn’t what my body was asking for. It just didn’t taste like food. A couple cans of tuna, some cashews and some queso fresco later, the cravings went away. I will need to make a trip to the gringo getting-place and pick up some tahini and almond butter, which will set me back some $15 or so. Not a whole lot in the scheme of things. I’m on it.
Note to Self: If I notice myself skimping, I may need to re-assess whether I’m associating not having what I need with my worthiness or ability to have what I need. If I can put some attention there, I can see pretty easily that I am worthy of adequate nutrition (what my body needs to stay healthy). For me, it is sensible and correct to include healthy proteins and fats along with the wide variety of fresh produce that I can get for next to nothing here in Mexico. I can also assess whether I have adequate margin in my budget to cover nuts, nut butters, avocados, high quality oils, and high quality meats, and usually I do. I don’t need to go overboard, but I do have enough. (These things are up there in the top of the pyramid, just under treats and sweets.) And yes, they cost a bit, but they are also my medicine, one of my best ways of building and maintaining health.
There is no doubt about it, sweetness is something we all need, and if for some reason you have been prohibiting or limiting sweetness in your life, that’s something I recommend you pay some compassionate attention to.
- There are different kinds of edible sweets available to us in markets and selling establishments everywhere. And there is also sweetness available to us from every direction in the form of connections with nature and other beings.
- If I build sweetness into my lifestyle, I won’t feel like I need to “steal” it (impulse purchases at the check-out lane, etc.). Sweetness then becomes a normal, built-in feature of my life. If I include having a cup of tea with a cookie, or even a few little cookies, every day, I have chosen to make sweetness a regular part of my life. (I tried this and I noticed that I didn’t put any sugar in my tea in order to make it feel like a special treat. This way, my treat is one that I’m allowed – whole-heartedly – not one I’m “getting away with,” or sneaking off to consume, hoping nobody notices.)
- Craving sugars, in the past, has pointed to a lack of the sweetness that I can only get through warm and authentic human connections and communion with nature. Now that I have lots of interesting and satisfying interpersonal connections in my life, I don’t notice as many cravings for sweets anymore. This shift has required me to really pay attention and make adjustments as I go, based on what tastes good to me, and what feels good in my body after I eat it. It’s an ongoing process, but a super-important one.
- We are being bombarded by campaigns crafted by the processed food industry to increase our consumption of their “yummy” products (laden with high quantities of salt, sugar and fat), and what seems “normal” can get skewed pretty quickly if we’re not aware and purposeful about what we purchase and consume.
Add to Body-Owner’s Manual:
- Check to see if you’ve been skimping on the relatively expensive high-quality foods that make you feel grounded and well-cared-for and probably build health and a strong immune system. If you are getting enough of those kinds of food, you’ll be less likely to crave those “kiddy” foods – the foods that the immature self wants – which help us know that at some level we are crying out in response to feeling unmet or unseen or uncared for.
- Make sure to reach out to others and invest time in mutually nurturing friendships.
- Connect with nature in some way that feels satisfying or nurturing to you.
Noticing Strictness or Rigidity?
- Being strict is no substitute for staying as attuned and available as possible to the feedback that your body provides. There are a lot of guidelines out there, and if you find one that resonates for you, great! Experiment with it and notice how your body reacts. Notice cravings, energy levels, mood and immune system functioning.
- Realize that your needs change over time, and the guidelines you use will need to be used with flexibility and openness to adjustment as your needs change.
For more on becoming an ally with your body, check out Toni’s Mid-MO Tour, happening in October 2017.