I have in the past year been thinking about money – fiscal flow. It was last year about this time that the dust was beginning to settle, and I realized that the time had come to shift from spending more money than I was bringing in. Thousands of dollars of credit card debt loomed – the hard-earned badge of taking chances, and the ball and chain that symbolized my vulnerability for stepping up and helping when I am not grounded myself (No regrets. Just noticing).
My relationship with credit is one of gratitude and respect, having been the recipient of student loans and commercial credit that allowed me to get an education and the credentials needed to support myself in an honorable and dignified way, but my latest plunge into debt is the shadow side of a larger transition, and it brings into stark relief many of my previously unconscious beliefs and attitudes about abundance and money, no doubt passed down to me from my ancestors, and maybe the reverberating echoes of our shocked and traumatized poor and middle class brothers and sisters who move through life more like the living dead than their great, empowered selves.
Since I made that recent, important shift, I have been thinking about how what I’m going through might be similar to the withdrawal symptoms of a heroin addict, or an alcoholic. But I try not to get too carried away. What I have realized is that for me, pulling out of our revered middle-class rituals that have served as the “guarantor” of safety and stability, I have stepped into the unknown. The result has been a self-imposed experience of low financial flow. AND having a temporary period of self-imposed “monkhood” has helped me get more up close and personal with some of the baggage I have carried with me about money, wealth and abundance. I’ll share with you here what I’m taking away as I move forward. This is going to be an excellent year!
Self-imposed monkhood has served me in managing my compulsions:
- To buying food in excess of what I need.
- To buying to distract myself from feeling.
- To buying things for others to get approval/acceptance.
- To supporting the illusion that I’m responsible or invulnerable.
- To keeping me rigidly stuck in my old roles of appearing “more capable.”
- To taking care of the needs of others to my own detriment.
Not having money has forced me to slow down. It has served me in helping to keep my life a bit simpler.
- Fewer distractions.
- More time with myself, my emotional life and my creative process.
Not having money has “served” me in helping me to feel more righteous.
(Making adjustments based on what I desire moving forward)
I choose to address my compulsions directly, and I open to guidance about how this is gracefully done.
It is safe to have plenty of money. I can have plenty of money and stay connected to my needs, my personal limits, my essence, my values and my purpose.
I am learning that true abundance does not always mean lots of food in the refrigerator, or cooking in advance so I have plenty of leftovers.
My compulsions have served to keep me disconnected from my feelings. I now choose to shift my relationship with my feelings and feel my emotions directly.
I can have simplicity in my life and abundant resources and income all at the same time.
I do not have to sacrifice financial abundance to have access to simplicity and peace.
I am well supported in managing abundance so that it does not detract from the quality of my life.
I can be trusted with material and financial abundance.
I will step up and do what is needed to make wise decisions that help me feel better about my financial future.
My values and integrity will stay intact as I become a conduit of great financial flow.
I release any connection between poverty and righteousness. That is utter nonsense.
As a fully resourced person I can and will make a bigger impact in the world.
I welcome the abundance that is already mine, and I am so grateful!
Thank you! And so it is!