What are you doing here, and why? It’s important to be tuned into this, probably more now than ever before. I am a counselor specializing in childhood trauma. My tools, experience and temperament help clients reconnect with and understand emotional messages from their bodies. Our work together empowers them to honor themselves and achieve their unique paths.
The client that I like to work with is willing to speak of unspeakable things. Which is not easy. But the person I can help is willing. And that seems to be what I have a knack for. To help a person feel safe enough to go there. I help to soften what is calcified and leaking toxins from inside. I help provide a space where what has been longing to be seen and held feels invited and named. When the client is willing, I create the setting where the unspeakable can feel safe enough to emerge. That is what I noticed about therapy I have had in the past–that I just literally could not think of any “logical” problem that I needed help with. The unspeakable needs to be coaxed into the room. It is the unspeakable that I invite, so that it can get the care and attention it is longing and yearning for. So it does not weigh so heavy in the soul. Here are some of the things that feel welcomed and therefore transformed (and unburdened) in these healing spaces.
THE UNSPEAKABLE
Shameful Things
- Jealousy
- Being Hateful
- Resentment
- Disappointments
- Greed
- Rage
- Selfishness
Silly Things
- Overreactions
- Embarrassments
- Childish Things
The Pathetic
- Things I’ve Learned Not to Focus On For Good Reason
- Things That Could Come True or Get Worse If I Think About Them at All
- Things That Might Come True If I Dignify Them With Language
- Things That If Uttered Aloud Would Make Me Unlovable
- The Whiny, the Annoying, the Shameful
- Things That Could Send Me Straight to Hell
- Things I Should Have Been Punished For. Things I Punish Myself For.
- Things My Body Does and Doesn’t Do That Are Too Tedious and Too Embarrassing to Ask Anyone to Help Me Sort Through
- Things I Should Have Been Able to Take Care of Long, Long Ago
I can help you if you are brave enough and willing to change, and maybe just need a place you can go to take–not all your scary baggage at once, but–the part that is ready now. I delight in meeting the person who knows they can be more of themselves, and just needs some reassurance, encouragement and a gentle witness to what they are going through, and what they have survived.
You might be aware of the shame and fear you feel about what you have been carrying. But if you are willing to show up anyway, you can unburden yourself. Maybe you have been betrayed; maybe you have betrayed others. But if you are still willing to take the chance, you will find what you seek, because you know the stakes are too great if you don’t. I want to work with you if you are interested in getting the kind of support you have been seeking all along, but somehow not finding. If you want to be supported in following a feeling as it shows you some beautiful thing you didn’t know was sacred about you. In the end, the clients who benefit from what I have to offer give me the astounding gift of seeing how universal our problems really are. I am truly blessed to know you, and hear you speak of unspeakable things.
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